This spring my wife and I made the decision not to take a sunny vacation. We have been lucky enough to escape the Vancouver rain and head south more often than not, but this year it wasn’t in the cards. That said, I had some vacation time booked and chose to keep it, opting for a "stay-cation" and to spend the time at home with family and friends.
In the weeks leading up to my holiday I'll admit, I felt some reservations. A part of me really wanted to find myself on the beaches and in the pools displayed on so many social media accounts. I really do miss the sun sometimes. But as my vacation arrived, I made a commitment to be grateful for the time and not waste it wishing I was somewhere else.
One thing that made my commitment a little easier was our decision to leave our two eldest children in daycare for a couple of days. I find it is a lot easier to be grateful for them at a distance. While I’m mostly joking, this arrangement allowed for my wife and I to spend the day together. The baby was with us, but he’s only 6 months and fairly low-maintenance; the ceiling keeps him pretty entertained most of the time. We went for lunch, had uninterrupted conversations, and got into some new Netflix shows. It was pretty awesome.
So what’s the point of this? Well first, I may have discovered a new type of vacation, stay at home and send the kids away, a daycare-cation!? Secondly, and more importantly, when I think of my worries about my holiday plans I realize the impact of expectations.
While a little "FOMO" motivates, too much might have you overlook the joy that is right in front of you.
When I shifted my thinking from getting an escape to investing in time with the people who matter most, it didn't really matter where I was. This change in perspective helped me to be grateful for things just as they were.
And as a bonus, the sun came out 2/10 days! Hm, maybe I'm still working on being grateful for early spring weather.