Probably. It’s not uncommon for people to make resolutions at the start of a new year in the form of a concise statement of drastic self-improvement. Statements like, “I’m going to lose 50 pounds”, or “I’m going to stop smoking” are commonplace (I can't be the only one who has made them!) Even as the resolution is being made, the doubt begins to stir both in the individual making the statement and those hearing it. These doubts are well founded as who among us hasn't failed to see a goal come to fruition?
But why is it that so many resolutions fail? It is because when we talk about a New Year’s resolution, what we are really talking about is change. We are generally talking about a positive change we want to make in our lives. The trouble is the thoughts, feelings and behaviours that reinforce our current way of being are well established. We are well practiced in particular habits, responses and relationships, and in order to change these ways of behaving we need more than the fleeting motivation of an untouched calendar. But don't reach for those donuts just yet! I said resolutions are probably a waste of time which means there's still a chance, because any change we make needs a first day.
Change requires a defining moment when we decide enough is enough, we're done with not getting the results we are looking for, we want something new. But to make that change we are going to need more than motivation; we are going to need to plan and seek support, and plan, and seek more support. Change requires consistent effort over time, especially if we don't want to be making the same resolution in 2019.
So, if you are planning to make a truly lasting change this New Year maybe that’s what should guide your start. Think about who and what you are going to need to make a positive change in your life. This might mean letting go of people or places that stand in your way. Develop a plan, including a realistic timeframe, that can create a strong foundation on which to make changes. Don't be afraid of setbacks, instead prepare for them as unavoidable realities of being human. And, for those who are ready to make a change but are struggling to see the path or who are tired of trying and not seeing the desired results, give me a call and we can make 2018 the year of real, meaningful and lasting change.